When we meet someone, we begin the mind-numbing game of trying to decipher every little word and move they make, every approach they take in all the games people play, trying to figure out if they like us or not.
I can’t for the life of me figure out why we do this to ourselves. I’m not saying that I am innocent. Oh no, you don’t become a love … sex writer without many, many, many hours of relationship self-analysis. But I have come to the conclusion that the straining over figuring out a man’s emotions is silly. We’re working too hard. This isn’t complicated.
Save for the man from whom you only receive mixed signals (the fool!), follow your instincts to decide if he’s into you or not. You can go back and forth on this for hours, but when all is said and done, it’s your instincts that will likely lead you in the right direction.
However, for those of you who still want to read into things, here is a quick “he loves me, he loves me not” cheat sheet. And hey, if all else fails and you still find yourself confused, just ask him.
His friends know about you
When he introduces you to his friends for the very first time, and they already know about you, it’s a good sign. Men can’t be bothered discussing women with their buddies unless they’re very interested.
He calls during non-booty call hours
I could say something about calling you the day after your first, or even second, date. Sadly most men still believe they need to wait a week before calling, which is such an old and out of date notion.
Just because he doesn’t call right away does not mean he isn’t interested. However, if the next time you hear from him it’s 11:30PM on a Friday night, this guy is clearly all about the ass over class. If you’re cool with that, then go to it. But don’t expect a guy who follows up a date with a booty call to want to meet your parents anytime soon. Barring that situation, if he calls in the next week to set up the next date, he’s interested, at least for now.
He really listens
Men who are taken with someone typically want to be a little sweet and romantic. And what’s the best way to do something out of the way and special for his new lady? Knowing things about her. You have to know the facts before you can plan your romantic assault. At least, I hope most men are doing this, otherwise their attempts at romantic gestures will be generic and boring.
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