The advent of internet dating definitely changes first impression circumstances. It’s entirely possible that you’ll be going out on a first date with someone that you’ve been communicating with for weeks or even months.
When you get married or enter into another type of serious relationship the decisions you make about yourself will not also affect another person. Being independent is great and standing your ground and not always giving into your partner is a sign of that independence. I’m all for self determination, but when your decisions affect someone else some compromise is called for.
When we meet someone, we begin the mind-numbing game of trying to decipher every little word and move they make, every approach they take in all the games people play, trying to figure out if they like us or not.
While doing your Saturday morning shopping you’re surrounded by people. Couples walking hand in hand, smiling and chatting. As you look at them you wonder how they met. Were they shopping, doing the laundry or browsing an internet dating site?
Even if that has not happened to you, you’ve probably read a book or two, or perhaps you know someone that this has happened to. A head over heels love at first sight meeting. And it didn’t stop there. Oh no! They did something drastic like getting married while riding elephants at the zoo or running away to Brazil. I know, you’re sighing and thinking “that’s so romantic!”. But is it really?
Have you ever had a girlfriend who’d ditch her friends, you included, for a guy? Let’s say the two of you made plans for the museum on Saturday afternoon. When Saturday morning rolled around, she changed her plans to be with a guy she’d just met. Being the understanding friend that you are, you caved and said that it was fine.
I love first dates, I truly do, but I have to say I’m over them. There’s so much build up, so much pressure (not to mention uncomfortable shoes) and don’t even get me started on the billions of articles out there about first dates. Really, it’s all a big to do about one night, and when you stop to think about it, it isn’t THE most important.