Remember To Say ‘Thank you’
You must give-and ask for-thanks.
Why is it we can tell a waiter how we like our steak, but we can’t tell our loved ones how much we appreciate them-or that we need to hear how much they appreciate us? Because by asking for thanks or praise, “I’m giving you critical data about me,” says counselor and life coach Laura Trice in this inspiring talk. “I’m telling you where I’m insecure. I’m telling you where I need your help. And I’m treating you, my inner circle, like you’re the enemy. Because what can you do with that data? You could neglect me. You could abuse it. Or you could actually meet my need.”
The only way we’ll ever find out is to gather our courage and take the emotional risk. And so Trice challenges the audience-and all of us: “Be honest about the praise that you need to hear. What do you need to hear?” Tell your spouse or partner or family members what you need to hear from them-and ask what they need to hear from you. “Ask those questions, and then help the people around you.”