What prevents men from being successful with women?
Well, the list goes on and on… but one of the elements that TOPS the list is FEAR.
There are many different situations that make men feel fear, but I’d like to talk about some of the most common ones… and what to do about them.
First of all, I’d like you to be honest for a moment about this topic.
Do you ever feel FEAR when it comes to women and dating?
Have you ever seen a woman that you’d really like to meet, but you started to feel fear and didn’t do anything about it?
Or maybe you were on a date and you wanted to kiss a woman… but you felt too afraid because you didn’t want to make a mistake and screw up your chances?
Or maybe you even got a woman’s phone number, but you were too afraid to call back because you didn’t know how to start off the conversation or ask her out?
Have you ever been sitting there with the phone in your hand, dialling a woman’s number, but you had to hang up because you were just too nervous to even talk to her…?
Or out on a date with a woman, and you wanted to kiss her, but you got so nervous at the thought that you just decided it would be better to forget the whole idea and hope for the best…?
Me too. Many times, in fact.
By the way, it’s not exactly FUN to admit that you’re afraid of things.
I’m sure you know that most guys would rather admit in public that they were unsure about their sexual orientation than that they were afraid of women.
Of course, this unwillingness to admit that you have a problem IN THE FIRST PLACE only makes matters worse…
If you don’t admit that you have the problem, then it’s hard to get help and answers to it.
Well, the good news is that you’re not alone.
Almost every guy I’ve known (including myself) has dealt with this issue MANY TIMES with women.
So, STEP 1 is to GET OVER IT. Get over your need to deny that you’re afraid. Just admit that you’re afraid, and come to grips with the fact that you’re human…
STEP 2 is to admit that you’d like to get this particular area of your life handled.
STEP 3 is to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Once you realize that it’s not that big of a deal, then the improvement can start. On the other hand, if you just stay in denial about it, you’ll probably just look for new tricks and techniques to use on women… which, of course, won’t lead to any REAL improvement.
PUTTING TOO MUCH IMPORTANCE ON WHAT THE WOMAN THINKS OF YOU AND WHAT HAPPENS IN THAT PARTICULAR SITUATION.
To put it in different words, most guys don’t take action because they’re afraid that they’ll screw up, or that the woman or others around will judge them.
The REAL problem though is that this whole process has become AUTOMATIC, and it happens INSTANTLY the moment most guys see a woman that they’d like to meet. Before they even have a chance to think about the situation rationally, they’ve become nervous, insecure, and upset.
I’m sure you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about.
As humans, we have these incredible minds and bodies, but sometimes they get wired up in ways that aren’t exactly useful for the situations that we find ourselves in. Worse, sometimes our cultures, families, or peer groups teach us ways of thinking that just aren’t useful either for what we’d like to accomplish.
Here’s something that I realized a few years ago when I was learning for myself how to be successful with women…
I thought about this idea that I was having this instant, automatic fear in different situations with women, and that what I was really thinking was “I don’t want to mess this up” and “I don’t want her to think that I’m a prat “…
And all of a sudden something dawned on me:
IT DOESN’T MATTER.
It doesn’t matter what happens, and it doesn’t matter what she thinks of me.
I realized that the fears I was experiencing were more from PROGRAMMING than from reality.
So, I started to remind myself as often as possible that the fear wasn’t happening because there was any kind of danger… and that my objective in a particular situation wasn’t to have it turn out perfect, IT WAS TO LEARN.
Think about the difference between doing something because it’s important vs. doing something in order to LEARN.
So, for instance, if I saw a woman that I wanted to meet… instead of thinking, “OK, I have to say something charming and original so she’ll like me… and if I screw up I’m going to be embarrassed” – I began to think things like, “I’m going to learn how to get a woman’s phone number within a few minutes of meeting her… and part of learning this is going to be trying a lot of different things that probably aren’t going to work… but in the end, it’s all going to even out because I’m going to have the SKILL that I want.”
See the difference?
Well, let me tell you, that change in attitude made a HUGE impact on my success. I was willing to do and try things that I never would have tried in the past for fear of screwing up…
All because I had the attitude of “I’m going to learn something from this and improve my skills…
and it doesn’t matter what happens in THIS PARTICULAR situation”, I was able to improve rapidly.
And the more I began to apply this idea, the more success I had in ALL areas with women… from the first meeting, to getting them to go out with me, to taking things to a physical level.
So do this:
Go out RIGHT NOW and start a conversation with a woman.
I don’t care if she’s attractive or not.
But instead of having the objective of getting a date, have the objective of LEARNING SOMETHING.
In fact, if you REALLY want to improve fast, go spend a day starting conversations with women, but make the commitment NOT to get any phone numbers or dates all day.
In other words, no matter WHAT happens, you can’t date any of the women that you meet that day.
See if you can just learn how to do a few simple things like say, “Hi” to every woman that walks by… how to maintain eye contact with women until THEY look away… and how to end a conversation “too soon” so she feels a natural vacuum and tries to keep it going herself…
That’s one good idea for dealing with your fears.
From here on you will read of ‘live’ proposals of those who have successfully overcome their fear and found how effortless such strategies are.
This program is yours to keep and all the ideas within it specifically to attract women work and her proven methods to win the attention of somebody you really fancy.
You can pick and choose those you want to try right before you ‘hit town’ or arrange your seduction time in other ways.
If dating is not your thing then it will show you how to improve your confidence and influence of women wherever you are gaining you support and admiration from all those females you come into contact with.
If you are already in a relationship that seems to need a little more spice and laughter this manual can nourish that relationship and bring you both, romance, understanding and fun.
These are some of the areas you will read about in this first module that are direct tools to entrance women and make you very popular with any chosen date.
The Biggest ‘No No’s when meeting Women
Let’s get you started. But first…
Avoid the mistakes!! Here they are……
I have spent literally YEARS learning how to overcome my own fear and shyness… and learning how to approach women in different situation. I have also spent YEARS teaching other men how to overcome THEIR fear and shyness… and teaching them how to successfully approach women, start conversations, and create ATTRACTION with women.
I would like to “boil down” the top mistakes that men make when it comes to approaching women… and then I’d like to teach you STEP BY STEP how to overcome ALL of these mistakes… and create MASSIVE success for yourself with women.
Here are the biggest mistakes when it comes to approaching women:
MISTAKE #1: Not Knowing How To Deal With Fear And Shyness
We are ALL afraid.
That’s right. ALL of us are afraid.
In life, we all have fears… and it’s up to each of us as individuals to either choose to overcome those fears… or choose to let those fears run our lives.
For most of us guys, we experience intense fear and shyness when it comes to APPROACHING women that we don’t know.
Here’s the part that’s the real stumbling block. When you’re experiencing fear and shyness, it feels like you’re the ONLY ONE IN THE WORLD who has EVER felt this way.
The feeling can be SO intense, that it seems IMPOSSIBLE that anyone else could have a “case” as bad as you. Does this ring true?
I have spent many, many hours in situations… looking at a woman that I’d like to approach… but just not being able to do it.
Then, later… after it’s all over… I think BACK to the situation… and shake my head because I just couldn’t figure out how to overcome my own FEAR… and just TALK TO HER.
The desperation that resulted from these situations was intense. It was embarrassing. It was a confidence tailspin.
As a man, one of the worst feelings you can have is that something is making you feel like LESS than a man. And this was one of those situations for me.
I’m kind of hard-headed sometimes. Maybe I like punishment more than others… or maybe I just like to beat my head against the wall longer than most.
In any event… I didn’t give up.
Even though I was going through this experience over and over… of seeing a woman I wanted to meet… feeling fear and apprehension… not being able to get up the nerve to go talk to her… then thinking about it for hours (or days) after it happened… I just wouldn’t let go.
I became determined to “crack the code” on this one.
Well, the big “Eureka!” moments was the SIMPLE act of learning that I WASN’T ALONE.
Just like it takes some “nerve” to approach a woman, it ALSO takes nerve to ADMIT when you’re having challenges in life.
And one of the things I learned about my “fear of approaching women” was that instead of being “abnormal”, I was actually TYPICAL.
Here I was thinking that I was emotionally retarded… and then I find out that MOST guys have this same issue… and it’s just as intense for THEM as it is FOR ME!
Misery loves company… as they say. I guess that just learning I wasn’t alone was enough to really encourage me.
But then I learned something even MORE important while I was learning how to overcome my own fears: I learned that MANY OTHER GUYS had figured out how to OVERCOME this “fear and shyness issue”… which led me to my next “ah ha!” moment:
IF THEY CAN DO IT, THEN SO CAN I.
And I’ll tell you something right now: SO CAN YOU. And if you’re open-minded and willing to do a little work on your part, then I’d like to show YOU how to do it…
MISTAKE #2: Expecting The Worst
I have spent a lot of years reading Psychology and “Self Help” books… and listening to audio programs… and going to seminars…
I’ve also spent a tremendous amount of time “testing out” the ideas that I’ve learned in these various books and programs.
As a result of all this “trying stuff out”, I’ve come to the realization that EXPECTATIONS play a very important part in RESULTS in life.
People who always expect bad things to happen… wind up having a lot of bad things happen to them.
People who only expect good things… wind up having a lot of good things happen.
Is this Voodoo? Am I talking about freaky New Age ideas that have no basis in reality of any kind?
I’ve never tried Voodoo, by the way… but if you have, and it works, let me know. I’m always looking for new ideas that WORK!
OK, back to the point…
I believe that the REASON why expectations are so powerful has to do with the part of your mind that psychologists refer to as the “unconscious mind”. Some call it the “subconscious mind”.
This is the part of your mind that’s “always on”… but it’s working “behind the scenes”.
Have you ever been walking along… or driving… and you sensed danger out of the corner of your eye… and before you knew it, you INSTANTLY responded to avoid the danger?
Things like this happen to us all the time… but we don’t really THINK about what’s happening in moments like these.
The reality is that when we go through an experience like this, there are “miracles” happening inside of us.
In an instant, before we have time to “think” about what’s happening, our entire mind and body have “taken over” and moved us out of the way of harm.
If you take just one aspect of one of these situations, the PHYSICAL MOVEMENTS, and examine it… you’ll find that more is going on than “meets the eye”.
In order for your mind to perceive the danger, realize that it IS danger, figure out how to respond, then get the body to actually MOVE in away that gets you out of the path of danger… requires a MASSIVE amount of “computing power”.
Fortunately for you, all of the “computations” are being done outside of your “conscious” awareness.
But WHERE is it all being done? How is it that you “know” what to do… and you even DO it… before you “realize” what’s going on?
It’s all being done in this part of your mind that I’m talking about. It’s all happening on the UNCONSCIOUS level.
Now, think about THIS for a minute:
Most men who have problems approaching women have one peculiar thing in common: They are all EXPECTING negative outcomes from the approach.
And they also have a SECOND thing in common: They don’t CONSCIOUSLY REALIZE that all of their expectations are negative.
If you take time to ask, or you stop to think about how it happens for YOU, I think you’ll realize that when you think about approaching a woman, your UNCONSCIOUS mind starts to INSTANTLY think about all the NEGATIVE things that might happen.
In fact, for most guys, this “negative expectation program” literally TAKES OVER… and they CAN’T EVEN IMAGINE a positive outcome.
This “negative expectation” thing is kind is a tough call, by the way.
It’s painful… and it’s not easy to change…
UNLESS, that is… you know HOW.
You’ve learned one of the most important pieces of the puzzle for changing: AWARENESS.
Now that you KNOW about it, you can start to AFFECT IT…
Now you need to learn some specific techniques to REVERSE this thinking… and begin to expect POSITIVE things to happen when you approach women…
MISTAKE #3: Making The WRONG First Impression
Another important think I learned about approaching women is actually something pretty OBVIOUS, when you think about it:
Attractive women are “approached”… one way or another… CONSTANTLY.
Women who are attractive are approached in a hundred different ways every day.
Sometimes it’s a co-worker walking by her desk and smiling “too many times” a day…
Sometimes it’s a guy holding a door open a little too long, just hoping to start a conversation…
Sometimes it’s a random email from a guy she doesn’t know telling her that he saw her picture online and thinks she’s beautiful…
Sometimes it’s a friend who keeps sharing his “feelings” for her…
And the more she’s approached (both subtly and not so subtly), the more she develops a powerful “radar system” that alerts her to a man’s intentions.
Most men don’t realize that their lame attempts to get a woman’s attention are HURTING them. They don’t realize that the things they’re doing are actually giving her a NEGATIVE impression… and making it so that it’s almost IMPOSSIBLE for her to be attracted.
You’ve probably heard that “Women aren’t attracted to what I respectfully call ‘Wussies” or term, “Motherly Men!”
It’s true, by the way.
Let me ask you a couple of questions:
1) How many chances do you get to make a first impression on a woman?
2) What impression do most men give off when they approach a woman?
Right, the WUSSY impression.
And women have such a finely-tuned “Wussy Radar” system, that’s I’ve actually given it a NAME… I call it WUSS-DAR.
If the impression you make on a woman is that you’re a WUSSY, then it really doesn’t MATTER if you’ve learned to overcome your fear of approaching her… because she’s not going to feel any ATTRACTION for you ANYWAY.
You can train for ten years and become the fastest runner in the world… but if you start off the race running in the WRONG DIRECTION it’s going to be pretty hard to WIN.
So remember: When you approach a woman, make sure the IMPRESSION she’s getting is one that triggers ATTRACTION.
There are a lot of specific ways to create this impression, and I’ll tell you some of them right now…
But REMEMBER: DON’T GIVE HER THE IMPRESSION THAT YOU’RE A WUSSY. (By this I mean ‘fawning and sheepish’ guys. It has nothing to do with physical appearances)
MISTAKE #4: Seeking Her Approval Or Acceptance
If I could go around the world, and take ALL of the situations that happened today where a man approached a woman that he was interested in dating… and then summarize and “condense” them into ONE “scene”, it would have an easy-to-recognize theme…
It would be a man who’s nervous and shy… who is trying to FIRST get the woman to LIKE AND ACCEPT HIM.
For most guys, they have it in their mind that they need to get what psychologists call “approval”.
They think that the most important thing is that she LIKE him.
Here’s what it looks like to the woman…
It’s like a guy is walking up with a big sign on his forehead that reads: “I want you to think that I’m a nice, sweet, caring, considerate man… and I would do almost anything to make you like and accept me”.
And guess what?
IT DOESN’T WORK.
It never works.
You MIGHT get a woman to feel attracted to you by working to get her attention and approval…
But you probably won’t.
I think I’ve made my point.
Using the “kiss her ass and hope she likes me” strategy is a loser. It does not trigger attraction. It never will.
Hugh Hefner and Brad Pitt will probably write to me to disagree… and then I’ll stand corrected.
But for regular guys like you and me, it ain’t gonna happen.
ATTRACTION is triggered by a TOTALLY DIFFERENT message.
It’s created by a man who knows how to TRIGGER the attraction when he approaches… not by the man who HOPES it will happen if he’s a NICE, SWEET, WONDERFUL GUY.
In short, DON’T SEEK HER APPROVAL OR ACCEPTANCE.
She’ll smell the Inner Wuss coming out, and she’ll shut you down faster than you than a chicken farm with Bird flu!
MISTAKE #5: Thinking You Need To Be “Original And Creative”
Answer this question:
When you see an attractive woman that you’d like to meet… and you start thinking about how to approach her and start a conversation… what’s the FIRST thing you think of to SAY to her?
As you know, it can be TORTURE to try to come up with what to say.
This torture, of course, is SELF-INFLICTED.
And there’s a common “theme” at the root of this “self torture”.
This theme is that when we see a woman that we’d like to meet, we tend to think to ourselves, “I need to come up with something ORIGINAL and CREATIVE to say to her”.
Why do we do this?
Because we DON’T want to come across as insincere… or even CHEESY.
So we look at her… try to notice something about her… maybe try to come up with some kind of original compliment… or creative humour.
Here’s the problem:
That attractive woman has men looking at her ALL DAY… EVERY DAY.
And they’re all thinking the SAME THING.
From HER perspective, every guy is walking up to her and saying one of the SAME FEW THINGS.
The irony is that in our desire and attempt to be ORIGINAL…we wind up saying essentially the SAME THING as the last hundred guys…
And TO HER, it comes across in EXACTLY THE WRONG WAY.
The “original, sincere, real” compliment we give her is just like the last gadzillion she got…
And you just become one more “link” in the “mental sausage chain” in her mind.
So what’s the solution?
The solution is to LEARN what to say when you start a conversation with women. Learn how the PROS do it… so you can get an UNDERSTANDING of what actually WORKS.
Only after you’ve learned from several experts… and then used their methods in the REAL WORLD… should you try to be “creative and original”.
MISTAKE #6: Not Having An ARSENAL
Of Techniques “At The Ready”
You may have noticed that the mistakes I’ve been talking about have little or nothing to do with “pick up lines” and “techniques”.
Why is this?
It’s pretty simple, really…
If you have all these other issues handled, then good “pick up lines” and other techniques are like GUNPOWDER. They’re INCREDIBLY powerful.
If you DON’T have these other issues handled, the best techniques in the world can’t help you.
So, STEP ONE is to get these other issues handled.
Step TWO is to then learn the very best opening lines and other techniques… so you have “proven systems” for approaching women and starting conversations in ANY situation.
Until now, there’s been nowhere to go for the solutions to ANY of these problems.
Now you can learn to overcome and CONQUER all of these different problems… PLUS get intensive training on all of the best step-by-step techniques and “pick up lines” for every possible situation…
This introduction to the program is essential so read it again. Life can be lonely for those who don’t take action to win a woman’s heart. The information proceeding this first segment will only be set to those courageous enough to use it and closely follow the techniques to attract women WITHOUT FAIL. It is not for the fainthearted or those who give up easily.
Please read on:
This is one of the areas that guys want to know the most about.
The concept of being “cool”.
How to act Cool around women
In other words, I’ve been watching people (myself included) to see if I could figure out why some people are considered “cool” while some are considered “not-so-cool”… and more importantly, how to use this idea to have more success with women.
So what is a “cool guy”?
And what is it about a guy that’s “cool” that makes women feel more attracted to him than an “uncool” guy?
Let me tell you a few quick mini-stories about guys I’ve known who were UN-cool.
One friend I used to have LOVED to argue with people. He would start arguments about anything and always take the opposite perspective on every topic. He did this with women all the time too. I think he felt like he was coming across as smart when he argued. Guess what? Women hated it, and ran as soon as he got started. His mates hated it too. He was UN-cool because his insecurity was so strong, that he had to argue to get attention.
Another friend I have always tries to do nice things and favours for women he likes. As soon as he meets a woman he likes, he tries to find something he can do for her. Of course, he then gets upset when the woman doesn’t return the feelings of affection… and he acts upset and “taken advantage of”. This, of course, makes women run away. As you can probably guess, he’s trying to manipulate women with favours. And women resent him for it. Women don’t think he’s cool, and they avoid him.
I know one guy who loves to tell women how beautiful they are, buys drinks and dinners, and pursues them with the “You’re the greatest thing in the world and I’m going to chase you around and try to buy your attention”. And even though he’s doing a lot of “nice” things for the women he’s interested in, he can’t keep one around for more than a date or two. Even his guy friends think that he needs to calm down and act more “cool” in general.
Now, all three of the guys I’ve mentioned above have different problems… but the way I see it, they’re all strangely related.
Here are a few more quick stories about guys I know who are “cool”.
One guy I know always has girls around him. In fact, I don’t think I’ve ever seen him WITHOUT at least one girl with him. Usually he has three or four girls with him… and sometimes up to 10 or 12. He always makes fun of the girls, teases them, and treats them like good friends who he’s comfortable enough to hang out with. He’s not rich, he doesn’t buy things for women, and he doesn’t kiss up to them. He DOES, on the other hand, make it his business to know where the “cool” places are in town, where to go out, and who to call for the “inside track” on where the hot spots are. Then he shows up at the door to these hot spots with five women. EVERYONE who knows him thinks of him as a “cool” guy.
I have another friend that is really amazing with women. But he does something that’s rather unusual when he’s around women. He kind of IGNORES them when he first meets them. If he’s out with friends, and one of them introduces a female friend to him, he’ll shake her hand and say “hi”, then TURN AWAY and go back to whatever he was doing. Somehow, the women that are around him always want to talk to HIM. And all the guys he knows think of him as one of the coolest guys around.
Finally, I have one friend who literally says things to women like, “You probably wouldn’t like me. I don’t really have relationships with women.
Our relationship will probably go no further than the physical…” He’s so calm and laid back around women that they have to often pursue HIM… and it happens a lot. He’s blunt, direct, and honest about whatever is on his mind. He doesn’t chase women, buy them things, or smother them with compliments… and yet, they love him. And he has a crew of guy friends who all love him and think he’s one of the “coolest” guys in the world.
So what is it that separates the “cool” guys from the “uncool” guys?
What is “cool”?
What is it that makes a few rare people the kind of people that EVERYONE wants to be around?
What is it about UN-cool guys that repels other people, and makes women run away?
And what is it about this element that I’m calling “cool” that makes guys who have it attract more women than they can handle?
THE DEFINITION OF COOL
I personally think that being “cool” comes down
1) Being independent
2) Being indifferent
3) Being funny
4) Being socially adjusted
Before I get into each of these in detail, I want to mention something…
Usually, I tend to stick to techniques to help you meet more women, or give you advice to get past limiting beliefs, etc.
I’ve realized recently that there are a few BASIC, FUNDAMENTAL things that we, as guys, need to really “get” about interacting with other people before we start trying to learn advanced stuff, like how to approach and meet women. If you don’t have some of the basic things handled, all the fancy techniques in the world won’t fix your problem.
So stick with me here, this is important.
OK, so let’s talk about the four components that I mentioned above.
Independent is the OPPOSITE of “dependent”.
When you act “dependent”, you lean on others, you look to them for approval, you ask what they think before you make a decision, you tend to want to stay physically close to them, and your feelings tend to depend on what others feel and think of you.
When you act INDEPENDENT, you lean back, you do things because YOU decided you wanted to, you don’t ask others what they think – instead you decide yourself, you are fine walking away from your friends for awhile when you’re out, and your feelings are controlled by what YOU think, not what others think.
A “dependent” person will go into a bar with friends, stick close to them all night, ask what everyone else is drinking before they order, get upset easily about things that others say, and constantly be looking for attention and approval in some way.
An INDEPENDENT person, on the other hand, will go into a bar with friends and be more likely to… walk away and look around the place ALONE to see who’s there – and feel fine about leaving their friends for awhile and striking up a conversation with a stranger… They’ll order a drink if they want, or water if they want – and not care what everyone else is drinking… They’ll be cool and calm no matter what happens – even if others are getting upset around them… And, most importantly, they aren’t looking to others for attention and approval. They’re doing their own thing, and enjoying whatever happens.
Most people in this world are ATTACHED to the outcomes of things. They’re constantly worrying about what’s going to happen… and talking about the future in a fearful, uncertain way.
This type of person always wants to know what other people think of them, and they’re worrying about what they should do so other people will like them. Unfortunately, this almost ALWAYS comes across as INSECURITY.
An INDIFFERENT person, on the other hand, just goes about life and takes things as they come.
The indifferent person is INDIFFERENT to the outcome of whatever situation they’re in.
If it’s a man, and he’s approaching a woman, he will be OK with whatever happens. If she’s nice to him, great. If she’s uptight, no problem. If she’s rich, famous, and beautiful… and starts coming on to him, fine. No big deal.
When you are ATTACHED to the outcome of a situation, it makes you act all kinds of freaky.
You pause, act nervous, hold back, look for approval, act insecure… and any of 100 other unattractive things.
On the other hand, when you’re INDIFFERENT to the outcome, it makes you MAGNETIC. Especially when it comes to women and dating. Indifference is the ultimate way to show a LACK of insecurity in life.
Humor is magic.
It’s a complete mystery why we find things “funny” and why we “laugh”.
Crying because someone died makes some logical sense. It’s a bad thing, and crying expresses a negative emotion.
But when you see a dog run into a window because he doesn’t see it… and he gets a confused look on his face, you LAUGH. What’s with that?
Humor is interesting to me, in that if you’re funny, it makes people FEEL GOOD inside. They laugh, and it triggers positive feelings.
If you’re not naturally funny, it’s a great skill to learn. Read books. Watch live comedy. Do whatever it takes to learn how to be funny.
Most of the “coolest” guys I know are wickedly funny. Some of them are only funny on occasion…
But, they “get it”… and when they do make a joke, it’s DAMNED funny.
BEING SOCIALLY ADJUSTED
I know that this sounds weird, but most of the people I know who are “UN-cool” are not very adjusted socially.
They lack a certain something in the “social skills” department that makes it OBVIOUS to others (and especially to women) that they don’t know how to relate very well to other people. They just never learned how to make others feel comfortable around them.
If you’ve ever known an accountant or computer programmer that was brilliantly smart, but totally boring, you know what I mean.
If people act kind of nervous, strange, and uncomfortable when they’re around you, then you also know where I’m coming from on this.
I can’t teach you how to make people feel comfortable around you in two sentences, but if you need to learn how to mix with people socially, then start PAYING ATTENTION to what’s going on around you.
Watch how others dress, carry themselves, walk, and talk. Pay attention to little details… like, saying, “What’s up?” When meeting someone, instead of, “Hello, I’m pleased to meet you” and such.
…Now, is this all there is to being “cool”?
Of course not!
But it’s a great start.
If you can first get yourself to the place where other people want to be around you just because they enjoy your company, you’ll find that taking things to the next level with women will be about 10 times easier.
I’ve had this conversation with MANY of the guys I know who are successful with women, and they all basically say the same thing… you have to learn how to be “cool” and make others (women) feel comfortable just being in the same room with you. And if you’re “cool”, this happens almost instantly. If you’re not “cool”, then you’re going to have a hard time making ANYONE feel comfortable with you… never mind having a woman feel ATTRACTION for you.
Even though I don’t talk very much about this concept (I will in the future, though), you’ll notice that many of the techniques you’ll learn will improve lots of areas in your life… not just with women.
As a direct result of the things I’ve learned about how to be more successful with women and dating, I’ve ALSO become more successful at things like being invited to “exclusive” parties, having famous and successful people pursue me as a friend, and just generally being invited into more “exclusive” social circles.
Why is this?
Well, for one thing, people who know a lot of “cool” or influential people are very careful about whom they “bring along” to gatherings with friends.
The LAST thing someone “cool” needs in their life is an “UN-cool” person making a jackass of themselves in front of all of their friends.
When you learn the art of being “cool”, you start to attract other cool people. And those people will see that you’re not insecure, emotionally unstable, clingy, and such. They’ll see that you know how to handle yourself with other people (and with women), and they’ll start introducing you to other cool people (including women) instead of running away from you.
I know that this newsletter is going to ignite a whole series of questions about how to learn these concepts but if you had all of it at once it would overwhelm you and you would end up doing nothing about dating girls and women. That’s why any life-changing project is done in stages. There are NINE more modules for you to digest, learn, remember and act upon.
So, want more great ideas on how to be “cool”, and how to meet and date more women?
I thought so…
It took me a long time to figure out how to be “cool” around women… and how to make women feel that powerful physical and emotional response called ATTRACTION…
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